This post is brought to you by our lovely wedding blogger, Aislinn! And with Marty getting married next year, we have weddings on our mind more than ever 🙂
The best thing about being a bridesmaid is that you get told what to wear (thanks, Marty!) I had to wear a Catholic School Uniform for 13 years, so, sometimes I crave the uniformity of not having to make fashion decisions. I also like it when people just do things for me. Unfortunately, one cannot be a bridesmaid at every wedding that they go to. Number one because that would be weird. Number two because that would cost a fortune. Number three because obviously.
Never fear, my non-bridesmaid folk, the JCR girls are here to help you out with a Wedding Dress Code. Rule number one: Never wear an actual school uniform to a wedding. You are not Madonna.
White Tie/Black Tie Attire
What. does. that. even. mean? Formal Dress is a scary concept for a lot of women. For men, there are some pretty set rules of what to wear and what not to wear, but for women? For women, it’s admittedly somewhat open to interpretation, which is the worst thing in the entire world. Here’s what you need to know about White Tie or Black Tie: You’re about to be surrounded by some rich people. White Tie is much more formal than Black Tie. Tradition says not to wear a short dress, but hey, tradition, shmradition! For Black Tie and White tie we say: long or short dresses are a-ok, but think formal. Think elegant. Do NOT think prom.
If you are going to go for a full-length dress, keep it sleek. Seriously, unless you are attending the wedding ceremony of Queen Victoria, do not wear a ball gown. (The wedding of Queen Victoria took place in 1840. Capicse?) If you are going to wear a short dress, keep the hem line no shorter than where the tips of your fingers brush your thighs. Remember, if you’re going to a wedding this fancy, there will be parents, grandparents, old people of all sorts, and they will be judging. Keep it classy.
Hooray! You just got an invitation with more interpretive nonsense! Cocktail attire for men at weddings means suit and tie, or dinner jacket. And for women the all-encompassing term: “cocktail dress.” Traditionally, this means any dress that falls above the ankle. We say that you should probably be keeping the dress-length mid-thigh for this as well, because it’s a wedding, but you can probably get away with it being a little on the shorter side. Remember, if you are like us, you’re about to dance up a storm. Leave some wiggle room! (Always avoid the risk of someone seeing your spanx!)
We quite like the idea of switching it up a little bit and wearing a sleek jumpsuit; keeping it classic with a vintage-inspired midi; or a cute mod shift. If you want to stand out, the best advice we can give for cocktail dresses is: Have fun with your shoes and make-up.
If you’re like us, seeing this on an invitation totally freaks you out! Are we going to be over-dressed? Or under-dressed?! Here’s the truth of the matter: Casual Attire on a wedding invitation means your Sunday Best, not your favorite blue jeans. For men: slack and a button down, or collared shirt. For women: a dress, a skirt and shirt, or slacks and a blouse. You can probably have fun with this! Remember, it’s always better to be slightly overdressed!
Note: A personal preference. The color red is the color men find the most attractive, and women find the most threatening. Really! There are studies! If you are going to wear red to a wedding, we recommend a short, modest dress. Red + full-length dress = center of attention, which isn’t the best thing to be at someone elses’ wedding. Another note on color: steer clear of the white. Even if the bride says she doesn’t care, or if it’s fashionable, etc…. if we’re being honest: it looks weird in Facebook pictures.
Our final rule in our Wedding Dress Code Guide For People Who Aren’t Bridesmaids is to wear something you love and you can move in. Weddings are FUN, full of energy, and full of love. Bring those great vibes with you 🙂 Tell us what you’re wearing to your friends’ wedding!