“But, why isn’t he obsessed with me?” Martha said to me.
We were sitting against the window seat of one of the sketchy Dublin flats we lived in, cocooned in duvets. We had gone through a full sleeve of Digestive Biscuits and refilled the kettle twice. She was talking about Barry (one point oh.)
“Jocelyn told me to put him on the back burner,” she continued. “Back-Burner Barry.”
We did not know at this moment that these two sentences would be repeated often throughout the next four and a half years. We didn’t know that “But why isn’t he obsessed with me?” would become our slang for “This guy is super cute and I want him to like me! But he is stupid/ lives far away/ has a girlfriend… and it’s really lame.”
That was before Jocelyn and I met in person and we became the fierce friend trio we are now. That was how every guy who was THE WORST became known as Barry, and before Martha met Matt and all back-burner business stopped. It was before I went on The Weird Date with The Guy with the Violent Tattoo (who was actually kind of obsessed with me, do-do-do-do.)
This time of year always brings me back to that conversation we had as twenty-year-old girls with little to no love life. So much (so little?) has changed since then…
As a single girl, I do not subscribe to the notion that Valentine’s Day is the worst day ever. If I may speak for our trio, we think it’s lovely that there is a day reserved for telling people you kinda like them, even if you really ought to do that every day.
Whether your life is full of Back-Burner Barry’s or you have a steady beau, we can all agree that we love a good date, especially a Valentine Date. But… what to wear? Not to worry, The JCR Girls are here for your Valentine’s Day needs! What kind of date are you going on?
The Fancy Dinner Date
We know that you love food. You love it more than you love your significant other. Well, maybe not. But that’s what you tell them when they finally bring you to that restaurant with the ravioli we have been DYING to try!
Dress: Anthropologie, Ivoire Dress, $188.
Shoes: French Connection, Catia High Heel, $140.
Earrings: J.Crew, Geometry Earrings, $75.
The Night In Date
Congratulations, you have tricked your boyfriend into thinking that this is romantic or something. Really, you just wanted popcorn and yoga pants. Boyfriends LOVE yoga pants. They don’t even know that you’re in your fat pants. It’s hilarious. Well played, my lazy comrade, well played.
Top: J. Crew Cutout Floral Sweatshirt, $75.
Pants: Beyond Yoga, Gathered Legging, $99.
Slippers: Accessorize Purrfect Fair Isle Slipper Boot, $21.
Hair Elastics: J.Crew Elastic Hair Tie Pack, $13.
The Party Date
There are two types of party dates: the Non-Committal Party Date and the SUPER-Committal Party Date. The Non-Committal Party Date is my favorite kind of Early in The Game Date. I work well under pressure, but not date pressure. The Non-Committal Party Date is fun, less serious, and laid back with a built in back up plan! The SUPER-Committal Party Date is the game changer. You know this party – the one where you get introduced as “the girlfriend” or you don’t. Don’t worry! His friends will love you! We promise! You look so cute, too!
Top: ALICE + OLIVIA, $130.
Shorts: Zara, Faux Leather Bermuda Shorts, $50.
Shoes: J.Crew Collection, Blakely Printed Pumps, $298.
Jewelry: J.Crew Faceted Cone Bracelet, $68.
The Friend Date
But why isn’t he obsessed with you?! Not to worry, you still have two friends who aren’t married. He’s a Barry anyway.
Top: J.Crew Lightweight Merino Tunic Sweater, $88.
Jeans: J.Crew Selvedge Toothpick Jean in Cherish Wash, $188.
Flats: J.Crew D’Orsay T-strap Ballet Flats, $228.
Necklace: Glitz Fox Pendant Necklace, $25.
Happy Valentine’s Day.